Fighting The Giant Of Side Chick and Side Cock

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A.Emmanuel Nyabam Esq.

Drink waters out of your own cistern [of a pure marriage relationship], and fresh running waters out of your own well. [Confine yourself to your own wife] let your children be for you alone, and not the children of strangers with you. Let your fountain [of human life] be blessed [with the rewards of fidelity], and rejoice in the wife of your youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant doe [tender, gentle, attractive]–let her bosom satisfy you at all times, and always be transported with delight in her love. Why should you, my son, be infatuated with a loose woman, embrace the bosom of an outsider, and go astray? For the ways of man are directly before the eyes of the Lord, and He [Who would have us live soberly, chastely, and godly] carefully weighs all man’s goings. [II Chron. 16:9; Job 31:4; 34:21; Prov. 15:3; Jer. 16:17; Hos. 7:2; Heb. 4:13.] His own iniquities shall ensnare the wicked man, and he shall be held with the cords of his sin. He will die for lack of discipline and instruction, and in the greatness of his folly he will go astray and be lost.
Proverbs 5:15‭, ‬17‭-‬23 AMPC

Over the past few days on social media the issues of sidechicks and sidecocks have come up. A dear friend posed a question about how men deal with sidecocks. I have not answered because I have been very busy but find we must address this pressing issue as it seems we have been speaking above the heads of people with regards this matter.

The first mention clearly on adultery is found in the ten commandments. It clearly states Thou shalt not commit adultery. As a broken cistern this clarion call I very much understand as it is a giant I struggle with daily. You see “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” Hebrews 13:4. It is written of God that “He has made everything beautiful in its time,” (Ecclesiastes 3:11) and the time He has ordained for sexual intimacy is for a man and a woman within the marriage relationship. To have this relationship before marriage (fornication) or with another partner after marriage (adultery) is in direct disobedience to the will of God. Even if your spouse would consent to an adulterous encounter, this does not make it acceptable in God’s eye. Therein lies the battle we face.

Today’s passage clearly tells me to drink from my own cistern. The only fountain that should please a man is that of your bride (spouse). Paul warns clearly against all such behavior: “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.” 1 Corinthians 6:18. To be given a body by God is a great privilege and we can use it to honor Him who gave it: “Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20.

The potential to use our bodies for glorifying God is emphasized in 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5: “For this is the will of God, your sanctification
Sanctification is the process by which you are transformed to have divine nature by the act of consistently putting sin to death by resisting temptation. This is what it means to cleanse the inside of the cup. (Matthew …
: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God.” Sanctification is the process that takes place in those who offer their body in obedience to the will of God and the result will be that we will be partakers of His holiness (His own life and nature).

His own nature makes us enjoy the promise the passage today answers us with the words firmly entrenched as follows… Let your fountain [of human life] be blessed [with the rewards of fidelity], and rejoice in the wife of your youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant doe [tender, gentle, attractive]–let her bosom satisfy you at all times, and always be transported with delight in her love. This is the will of God for you and I. The passage today further warns with a deep question stating, why should you, my son, be infatuated with a loose woman, embrace the bosom of an outsider, and go astray? For the ways of man are directly before the eyes of the Lord, and He [Who would have us live soberly, chastely, and godly] carefully weighs all man’s goings.

If God weighs our actions and Jesus stated in speaking about adultery wherein we are tempted with unclean thoughts, we can remember that Jesus opened a way out of sin for all of us: “For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.” Hebrews 4:15-16. At the throne of grace we will receive the help we need: “For in that He Himself has suffered, being tempted, He is able to aid those who are tempted.” Hebrews 2:18.

Over the next few days I will expose a few things and answer in clear terms what the real issues are. Let me answer my dear sister briefly on this matter how men handle sidecock. Men are schemers designed to conquer and very jealous more than women. A man can kill in fact but painstakingly work at it. I will speak further in days to come. Shalom

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